Women are sensual and affectionate. But the idea that a married woman would want an adventure on the side still perplexes people. People have a stereotype that men cheat more often than women.
Biological anthropologist Helen Fisher, in a study by Rutgers University found that 34% of women cheated while “happily married” compared to 56% of men. Consequently, 66% of women felt unhappy in a relationship and sought “happiness” on the side. Another study on a British dating site shows the following numbers: 57% of women reported feelings for their lover, while only 27% of men reported feelings for their mistresses. This experiment shows that women cheat more often when looking for an emotional connection.
Love on the Internet
There used to be fewer partners for cheating: friends, neighbors, colleagues, a lover could also be met in a bar, at a party. Today it is easier to find a partner – Facebook, Instagram, Tinder and other social networks. Women are more open online, they are looking online for men with whom they can create an emotional connection. On social media, photos act as erotic stimulation, especially if they are candid. Ashley Madison created a website and mobile app specifically for extramarital affairs. To date, the site has more than 21 million registered users. The main reasons for “cheating”: women – “you can’t divorce, but there is no relationship with your spouse”, men – “life is too short”. And it is not necessary to be in one place for AM – it is enough to have headphones and a camera.
Why do they do it?
Despite the fact that most often talk about women cheating as a way to find a strong emotional connection, there are other reasons, which highlighted a team of psychology professor Lucia O’Sullivan (University of New Brunswick, Canada)
Women with low self-esteem, depressed, unresolved childhood trauma will seek affirmation of their attractiveness through romantic activity. This is how they feel “needed.”
Women who have been wronged by a man (cheating, for example), use treason as a way to strike back.
Feelings of loneliness
The woman in the family feels like a babysitter, maid, laundress, mother, financial sack – anything but the woman she loves. Then she goes into adultery to fill the feeling of emotional emptiness.
Lack of Fountain of Emotions
For some women, permanent relationships seem boring because of the lack of constant “fire”. They chase new sensations, flirting and falling in love.
Differences in temperament
Sometimes a woman in a couple is more active in an intimate context than the man. Temperaments do not match, and the woman seeks to get more on the side.
Lack of a strong emotional connection
Even if a woman gets enough intimacy at home, but doesn’t feel an emotional connection with her partner, she may rush out looking for it outside the home.
If a woman feels that her partner has deceived her expectations and is not meeting them (even if she has not voiced them herself), she will go looking for another partner who can guess her wants and needs.
Wants to end the relationship
Some women find it easier to end a relationship if there is a good reason – like cheating. Still there is a type of women who “go nowhere,” first building a reliable bridgehead relationship on the side, and only after that break off the previous relationship.
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